Money can have a huge impact on relationships, so much so that it can contribute to marital discord and even divorce. If you’re married or in a long-term relationship, it’s important for you and your partner to either be on the same page financially or discuss your differences openly and learn to compromise. When mapping out your joint financial future, cover the essentials.
Spending Habits and Attitude Toward Money
Are you cautious about spending, or do you believe in enjoying the things money can buy and dealing with the consequences later? Understanding your partner’s attitude toward money is a key component of financial planning. It’s okay if you’re not on the same page, but you’ll need to learn to compromise and reconcile each other’s habits with your financial goals.
Do you want to purchase a home in the next few years? Start a family? Retire early? Discuss your short-, medium-, and long-term financial goals early, and reach an agreement about where your money needs to be going. Setting mutual goals or agreeing to support each other’s goals, can help you and your partner avoid conflict and resentment down the line.
Let’s say your five-year plan centers on buying a house, whereas your partner isn’t particularly motivated to own property. If you don’t discuss your goal up-front, you may end up feeling bitter toward your partner if you’re not in a position to buy five years down the line when he pushed you to travel and purchase cars and electronics instead of save for that down payment. But if you make your goals clear and create a specific savings strategy, you’ll be more likely to achieve them and less likely to harbor negative feelings about your partner’s lack of support.
Appetite for Risk
Once you’ve established your financial goals, you’ll need to figure out how to get there. Before you start building your portfolio, openly discuss your feelings about risk-taking. If you’re both conservative, you may lean toward safer but low-yield investments like bonds or certificates of deposit. On the other hand, if you’re both open to being aggressive and aren’t afraid to lose some money in the short-term, you could opt for stocks or even real estate. Now if one of you is a financial risk-taker and the other isn’t, you’ll need to negotiate a strategy that works for both of you. This could include a mix of mutual funds, individual stocks, low-yield bonds and money markets. Diversifying offers a degree of financial protection and peace of mind; and if you and your partner have differing tolerances for risk, it’s a good compromise toward meeting your goals.
By asking the right questions and approaching the discussion with open minds, you and your partner can set yourselves up for a solid financial future without letting money take a toll on your relationship.